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A Little Girls Dream…
It seems it wasn’t that long ago when I would dream about my Prince Charming rescuing me. He would be tall, dark and handsome. He would have long arms to wrap around me and keep me safe. He would NEVER say a mean word to me-ever! He would do everything I asked and without hesitation.
Whether it was Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs or Cinderella or perhaps Pretty Woman, there has always seemed to be this elusiveness that led many of us women on a trail of disappointment in the search for our so called “Prince Charming”.
Seventeen years ago I believed I had found my Prince Charming. I mean I met him in church, how perfect he would be, right? In just over a year we were engaged, married and expecting our first child. Life couldn’t be better. Truth be told, from the beginning after our honeymoon, things quickly disintegrated as we both experienced the lows and disappointments of unmet expectations.
From the Castle to the Dungeon..
It wasn’t long before I realized that my dreams of the perfect man were beginning to fade and the Castle I set up in my mind began to look more like a Dungeon.I was no spring chicken when I met my husband, I was 30 years old. The problem was not a matter of age but rather it was a matter of pride between two very broken people.
Intentional vs Unintentional
It was never our intention to wound one another -EVER! If your struggling in your marriage and feeling like giving up, keep reading. But the one thing I want you to know right now is, your spouse is NOT intentionally trying to hurt you. Pain is a natural symptom of brokenness, as you have probably heard before, “hurting people hurt people”.
Both my husband and I came into our marriage with a lot of baggage, like most couples do. So what made our path that much harder than the average married couple. Well, we both lacked the communication skills necessary for a successful marriage & we were not equally yoked in our relationship with God. Being “Christian” is not enough or be equally yoked.
The Chemical Reaction
I’ve often thought of the union of a man and a woman coming together as a science experiment, here me out; as men and women, most of us have the basic understanding of just how differently we are created by God. When you join a woman and a man together by a marriage covenant an amazing and spectacular event takes place, the two literally become one. It is a Spiritual Phenomenon . That is the first concept EVERY marriage experiences.
This is now a spiritual union that will take LOTS of discipline, a discipline many couples do not practice after the honeymoon ends.
So where does the chemical reaction go wrong?, when you take the complexities of a man and woman and the fleshy battles we face every single day and then add all the baggage from each other’s past, BOOM! you have a chemical reaction that goes wrong and the breakdown begins. This is the result of married people who do not nurture their marriage with prayer and the Word of God, but more importantly, who do not make an effort to heal from their past in order to become healthy for themselves first and then for their spouse.
Where there is Sin, there is MERCY
In saying all of this, I believe there are certain situations where God will step in and allow His grace and strength for those who spouses have either turned from God or never knew Him in the first place.
Let me just stop for a moment and say this; the single people who are looking to be married, pray first and truly get to know who your future partner will be. This is the rest of your life. Never look at marriage as a “chance” event, it is a destiny decision that is, well, till death do you part. That means forever. It is not a decision you want to make lightly. I had people tell me the same and of course, I took it lightly and it cost me, my husband and our children unwanted pain.
Perfection is not the Goal..
Finding a spouse for life is not about finding the perfect person. That will never happen, we all know that. But if you or your spouse or “spouse to be” have pain from the past you have not worked out, it’s a must before you commit OR if you want to salvage your marriage that is crumbly.
If you have managed to get by and everything is fine in your marriage still but you have things you know are hurting you and you haven’t confronted it yet with yourself, God or your spouse, might I suggest dealing with it now before it shows up in a negative way. Unresolved hurt always has a way of revealing itself later in life at one point or another and when it does, it can be very painful. An untreated wound only gets worse.
Where it went wrong for Us
My husband and I both loved God and had a reverence for His Word, however, about 5 years into our marriage, selfish and pride set into our hearts towards each other and our marriage became a very cold and lonely place. Our past toxic relationships and toxic remedies were beginning to show up and those same self preservations we had all our lives took over our marriage and well, we became roommates…
For a good tree bringeth not forth corrupt fruit; neither doth a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.”
Luke 6:43 KJV
We went about family life for the next 10 years living like a roller coaster. I can’t say we didn’t have great times together, we definitely had some beautiful moments as a husband and wife and with our children, but our marriage was lacking the fruit that a content marriage requires and that God desires for us to have.
The Tides of Change
I am happy to say that heading into our 18th wedding anniversary we have DEVELOPED and come a long way. Anyone looking on the outside or even those people who know what we have been through would have perhaps thought we would not have made it this far.
Well, we still have a long way to go, however, healing and growth will be a continual thing in our marriage and this is the consequences of not learning how to deal with unresolved pain from our pasts and during our marriage. Side note: sweeping any difficult situation from your marriage under a carpet will never resolve anything, it will eventually show up & when it does, it’s painful. Communication is a whole other blog one day.
Family is always worth the fight
There truly are some things worth fighting for in life, to me, FAMILY is one of them. Today, it doesn’t seem the norm however. The family unit has taken its fair share of dismantling over the last decade. Just look at the statistics.
I have chose to fight, again and again and so has my husband. Have we both wanted to quit, yes, many times, even this past year to be honest. But, there is something deep down inside of me that says, “Billie, you have fought for many things in your life, why not continue to fight for something sacred?, something that will have generational effects long after your gone. Fight for what you love, your husband, your children, heck YOURSELF!”
Let’s be honest, divorce is not at the top of anyone’s “to-do list” and my heart goes out to those who gave it all they had and it didn’t survive. I’m not here to judge anyone’s walk. I’m speaking of my own experience. There are clearly situations where divorce is sadly the only option for very serious reasons.
I just want to encourage you that if you feel you have done all that you can do, dig maybe a little bit more deeper, to the part of you that you don’t even know existed. It’s called “fight”, I believe we all truly have it deep down, here is the key to the “fight”, it’s not yours, you can’t do it alone. You will absolutely need the strength that is supernatural that only comes from the Spirit of God. Remember the same spirit that joined you both together? That’s the same One that will keep you together and give you the ability to overcome the unbearable.
LOVE is a Process….not instantaneous
I can truly say that by the end of 2017, my husband and I are falling in love. You may ask, “what? it took 18 years to fall in love?, YES!, true love and real lasting love I believe is built on struggle. The meaning of relationship is, the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.
We have always loved each other, but we were never “connected”. We are now becoming connected for the first time the way God intended, that is, connected to each other as one with God. The fruit is slowly growing and we are believing for a harvest.
I can honestly say today, without God, we would not be together today.
Our Fairy Tale & Unknown Certainties
My idea of finding the Prince Charming was not a bad idea, but it was totally unrealistic. Looking back I realize that it was both of us that contributed to the failures and the successes of our marriage and it will take the two of us to keep growing and staying connected. The KEY, keeping God at the centre where He belongs.
I cannot say what our future holds, none of us know that, but what we do know now is that we have lived a marriage without God and now we are living it with Him, and with Him at the centre and our willingness to stay humble there is no reason that our marriage shall not REMAIN.Strong in Him
Have you ever asked yourself, how can I feel like a loving kind tender woman wanting to save the world to a raging bull wanting to rip the head off of the idiot who just cut you off the road?
Or, perhaps you went to bed at night in a bed dry as a Sahara Desert and woke up startled by the cold pool of water you happen to be laying in from sweating all night.
Then your watching your husband who is lying under your car doing the oil change for you and all of sudden you start having thoughts of tearing off his clothes and acting out a Harlequin romance novel, then 30 minutes later you feel like knocking him out for eating your last handful of potatoes chips.
Well, if any of this resonates with you, You may just be entering the stages of perimenopause. Some of these symptoms you may experience during your monthly cycle as well, however they will become more intense depending on you and your genetic make up.
Learn to Let Go!
I have to tell you that from someone who suffered from crazy PMS her whole life, it’s got nothing on perimenopause.
If your like me and like to be in control, you better learn now how to let go! Or you will find that peace will be a rare commodity in your home.
And just when you think all is well and nothing can push that psycho button(you know y’all have it), BOOM! someone or something comes out of no where and takes you for a ride.
There are many ways to handle the unexpected when your hormones and body are going through these changes. We can either let them take over our emotions and live by our feelings,( and drive everybody nuts around us, including ourselves) OR, we can learn to start reasoning with ourselves and take responsibility for our actions and do the things necessary to help us walk through this “next stage” of our lives.
Understand, I am smack dab in the middle of this season of my life right now and I feel your pain ladies, however, just letting every emotion take over our minds will only lead you into more frustration in the end which causes more stress and leaves us in a tailspin, worse off than when we started. Learn to have those inner conversations and when you do lose it, de-brief with yourself, forgive yourself and move on.
So as much as I joke or lighten up the topic of perimenopause, there is a also a serious side to this stage of life for many women. It is no joke.
Because of the drop in estrogen many women can begin to experience depression, anxiety & other mental health problems that can seriously affect every area of their lives, including, career, family, friendships and an overall healthy lifestyle.
a few statistics ………
Nearly 40% of women have mood swings associated with hormonal changes—from feelings of rage to intense moodiness, anxiety and even crying spells. Studies show that the risk of depression doubles when women enter perimenopause; and if you’ve suffered from PMS or postpartum depression, you may be even more prone.
Men are not Psychiatrists
Ladies, the men or boys in your life DO NOT understand women when it comes to hormones and the changes we go through. It’s a fact. They may know some of the science behind it, however, they will NEVER truly “understand” because their bodies will never go through the same changes. We need to lighten up on our men and stop making them feel like they can’t measure up when they drop the ball. They are going to annoy you on the worst days and it’s NOT intentional.
At the same time, if any of you men are reading this, NEVER say out out loud, “it must be her hormones” OR “she must be PMS-ing,”, if you have ever had the misfortune of saying that around a woman who was truly having just a rough day, you might have felt a little of her wrath and rightly so.
My suggestion of sharpening your communication with the men in your life is too teach them. Share some research you have done and pick a time when they are not distracted, you know, not while they are watching sports or reading their favourite magazine.
Give them the facts only, that’s all they want and thats all they can handle(I mean that respectfully), men cannot retain the amount of gigabytes our brains do ladies. And, you will also have to remind them often.
There is hope for us women to reduce the problematic symptoms we face.
One place to start and the one I highly recommend is your nutrition. Every thing that goes into your body affects your body either positively OR negatively. This is one thing we do have CONTROL over.
Food is medicine as they say and whatever your feeding your body is how your body and mind will respond to the hormonal changes.
Here are just a few things you can do starting now to prepare & to help alleviate some of the perimenopausal symptoms;
- Eat healthy whole foods
- Reduce sugar intake
- Eat through out the day healthy snacks in between meals
- Get enough sleep
- Remind yourself the changes are normal, your not alone
- Let your loved ones know when your not feeling well-COMMUNICATE
- Take a deep breath when you feel overwhelmed and remove yourself from the situation – I call it Take 5
- Do something you enjoy..painting, shopping, dining out etc
- Read a book
- Start a new hobby
- REST!! listen to your body
- Deep breathing
- Listen to music
Many of these tips will help with PMS symptoms as well.
Remember ladies, we have faced puberty, marriage, child birth, and who knows what else, and we will get through this too!
So what happens when you grow up not believing in yourself, unable to please those you adored and looked up to?
What did you do to earn the love and affirmation you so desperately were missing?, simple, you become an Overachiever and a People Pleaser, yearn for outside validation. Their “personal feeling of security and self-confidence is based on getting the approval of others,”
Now, let me be clear, I am by no means the fitting bill of an overachiever, but I certainly tried on many occasions over the years. Don’t get me wrong, being successful or achieving great things is awesome, as long as your doing it for the right reasons. In my case it wasn’t, I was looking for love and constant affirmation from those I loved the most, my parents. This unfortunately set me up for a lot of disappointment later in life.
The “People Pleaser”
Many of us who grow up in a home where love and affirmation were withheld(unintentionally), can become people pleasers. We continue into adulthood looking for someone to say, “great job!”, or “you are incredible”.
Words of affirmation-which happen to be one of my love languages(no coincidence there), can lift us up, give us hope, bring joy, satisfaction and even strength and encouragement.
It all sounds great right?, well, there can also be a downside to this kind of affirmation & love seeking. It can put us in a place of exhaustion, anxiety, disappointment, disillusionment, anger and resentment.
When we want to constantly hear words of affirmation by others, we put ourselves at risk. Constantly looking to please people for the sole reason of receiving affirmation is unhealthy, we should always want to do things for others because it brings us a sense of joy and satisfaction first, then for the benefit of the other person.
When we do things for others for words of affirmation first, not only will we be let down, but we will either end up resenting people and isolating ourselves from them or we will try even harder to gain their affirmation and love and become overachievers & people pleasers and eventually we will become burned out because we don’t know how to say NO.
The first step for me in overcoming the “people pleasing” “affirmation seeking” habit was taking a good look at the “why”.
What made me want to hear people tell me how great a job I did or how great my essay was?
For me I learned several years ago after the death of my father why I longed for affirmation from others and why I was such a people pleaser.
My father was an amazing man and father. He provided all my needs and worked very very hard. However, my father never showed affection, either by words or physical touch. I found out the reason why shortly before he died, (which I will not get into out of respect for those involved), however, it later had consequences in my life.
I certainly appreciated all the wonderful things my dad provided, we were well taken care of don’t get me wrong, but the lack of love and affection from my father made me the people pleaser and overachiever I became.
Even to this day I catch myself doing things that really push me into a state of anxiety in order to please him and then I sadly realize, he is gone. I can no longer fight or earn affirmation from my father or hear him say, “great job my girl”
Learn to say NO…
I had the guilty conscious for years of saying no to people before I realized it was ok to say no.
When I learned why I was always trying to please people, I knew that saying “no” would be a part of my healing and freedom from overachieving and needing affirmation.
Over the last several years I have saved myself a lot of anxiety, anguish and resentment towards others by learning to say no, some call it boundaries. Whatever you call it, it’s learning to do things for others for the right reasons and for nothing in return. It’s also about finding balance and drawing a line in the sand.
Remember, there is nothing wrong with getting affirmation from others, in fact, it’s a necessary part of our humanity, it’s when we become solely dependant on it and our actions are the only precursor for it.
In saying all this, there is one more thing you must do in order to be set free from not being able to say no & “people pleasing”…..it is essential!
Receiving Gods Affirmation
This is the most important part of your freedom on learning to say no to others and “people pleasing”.
We NEED God’s affirmation most of all and first of all. If you do not or have not received God’s affirmations over your life and if you do not know who you are in Christ, you will have a very difficult time in finding freedom from the “needing” of affirmation and love from others.
When you realize just how much you mean to God and how much affirmation there is for you from Him in His Word, only then can you begin to enjoy your life and then you will do things for others out of a genuine heart and care for people and not just for words of affirmation.
I leave you with these affirmations to start with, 110 Affirmations from God’s Word
These are some of my favourites below
Saturday Nights called for Burgers, Homemade Fries & good television
I can remember as a little girl looking forward to Saturday nights for a few reasons; one of them was the Bay City Rollers-Saturday Night was on TV , and of course the Muppets. It also meant usually homemade burgers and french fries OR steak and gravy.
I decided to toss up a different kind of Saturday Burger night in my house a week ago and it’s not even close to my momma’s burgers BUT, it may just have been even better and the best part-It was VEGAN!
A Trip Down Memory Lane
So how many of you watched the Muppets on Saturday Nights? It was a regular addition to our Saturday night Tv shows. I loved watching them and even to this day if I’m having a rough go, I simply go to youtube and clips from some of my favourite episodes. I’ve tried to get my kids to watch them with me, however, the Muppets are just not stimulating enough for kids these days, we have Call of Duty and Zombies to thank for that. I really think we could all use a lot more humour in the world we live in today and the some of the old 70’s and 80’s shows could definitely bring us a few laughs.
What’s your Favourite Burger?
So, before my recent change over to plant-based and vegan choices, my favourite burger place to go was The Hambrgr in Hamilton(for all you non-vegans). Simply AH-MAZ-ING!!, my burger of choice from there?, the Pickleback, which I don’t think they have anymore. In fact I just went there a couple months and tried their Mushroom/Barley burger and I must say, it was really delicious!
I would say during my transition to plant-based that the hardest thing to give up was my burgers and I knew it wouldn’t be long until I came up with a recipe of my own for a vegan burger. I’m still experimenting, but the one I’m about to share was pretty tasty; there is however still much room for improvement. What is your favourite burger place?, both vegan and non-vegan.
Experimenting and Failing
So one thing I’m not afraid to tell you is that going plant based or vegan is a lot of trial and error. You have to be patient with the process and do a lot of research. You can NOT do vegan or plant-based on your own, you must connect with other vegans or plant-based people, you know? find your TRIBE! Going it alone will be like a co-pilot flying a plane without a pilot.
The best place I find my tribe? Instagram, that’s right, they are everywhere! One of my favourite is free_athelete incredible ideas and recipes. Another one is buddha_bowls and of course forks over knivesSo, if your thinking of transitioning for whatever reason or c conviction, I highly recommend not doing it alone. You MUST get the required, proper nutrition when cutting out certain foods. 🙂
I am now sharing my new burger recipe with you, experiment, tweak and make it your own!
Finally to the recipe;
Servings: 6 Burgers
- 3 teaspoons coconut palm sugar or 3 tbsp Maple syrup
- 2 tbsp apple cider vinegar
- 1 tsp liquid smoke
- 1 tsp minced or jarred garlic
- salt & papper to taste
- 1 shallot chopped
Marinade 4 Portobello mushroom in this mix for 10 min. Then place on cookie sheet and bake at 350 for 25 min. (pour all marinade on mushrooms first)
Burger Smash Mix
- cool mushrooms and chop up in chunks(set aside)
- in your processor combine the following;
- 2 chia eggs(1 tbsp chia seeds & 3 tbsp water soaked for 10 minutes) OR 2 eggs
- 1/2 cup cooked brown rice
- 1/2 cup GF flour
- 1/2 cup panko or vegan bread crumbs
- 1 tsp fresh thyme leaves
Pulse all ingredients in your processor till sticky and clumping together. Add another cup of brown rice to mixture and minced fresh kale(optional)-1/2 cup.
Mix well and make your patties, place on a plate and refrigerate for at least an hour to get the best flavour.
Heat & grease your grill till water sizzles on it, place your patties on hot grill and immediately cover with lid. Cook each side for roughly 5 minutes.
Prepare your buns-I prefer brioche buns
Top with your favourite toppings; I used caramelized onions, chipotle sauce(a lot) and a little mustard and some shredded marble cheddar on my boys burger.
Serve with homemade sweet potato fries or russet potato fries & ENJOY!!
I have been reminiscing lately about when I first became a Christian in 1996. Before that I was living in Mississauga with a boyfriend of 4 years and life was just sailing along. I had no idea what laid ahead.
A Diagnosis Changes my Direction in Life
It was the middle of the afternoon on October, 1994 , I was visiting my sister and spending time with my little niece, Brandi-Jo. We were about to have our Thanksgiving dinner when the phone rang. My brother-in law answered the phone and then came and got me and told me it was the Hamilton Wentworth Police. I thought to myself right away, “what did I leave behind in Stoney Creek”? lol. I picked up the phone and the first thing they asked me was, “is your mother’s name ___________”?, of course I said yes right away. They began to explain to me that my mom had been admitted to the hospital and that I needed to come to Hamilton to see her.
A Very Long Trip
As my sister and I drove to Hamilton, my sister and I were very quiet. We knew something was wrong with our mom because the police had contacted us. All the way to the hospital I wondered what illness had she been diagnosed with. Mental health 20 years ago was still not talked about much but we knew something was up because she was admitted to a psychiatric hospital.
We arrived to the hospital and after going through security a very kind nurse walked us down the very long corridor to our mom’s room(it seemed like forever). At one point the nurse stopped by a door of a lady’s room and called us back as we had kept walking. My sister and I walked towards the nurse and asked what was wrong, the nurse looked at me and said “this is your mothers room honey”. I had already looked in the room but didn’t recognize that the woman she was talking about was my mother. I could not believe my eyes. She had lost so much weight and her hair colour was so different. She looked so ill and so gone. This was not the mother I remember all my life. I would have walked right passed her on the street not recognizing her. I hadn’t seen here for over 4 years up until now.
When the doctor met with my sister and he explained to us that our mom had been diagnosed with schizophrenia , I didn’t know what to say or think. I didn’t know the first thing about the mental illness but I knew it was serious and I saw how it not only affected my mom mentally but also physically.
The Path to Light
I never thought in a million years I would return to Stoney Creek, I loved the big city (Mississauga)at the time and I also had been living with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and couldn’t see my life without him. But, I knew I had to go back to take care of my mom, even if it was temporally.
By January 1995 I had moved back in with my mom. Months later after getting settled in and regulating my mom’s medication and symptoms, I had met a friend of my mom’s who was also her neighbour. She had been there for my mom before I knew anything of my mom’s illness. So I thought, I have to meet this woman. Well, she was spunky and great to talk to and she also liked to roller blade and workout which I had just started doing. She was 44 years old mind you, but I thought she was pretty cool, really cool. Until one beautiful spring evening when we were spending time hanging out on her step. Out of the blue she looked at me and asked, “Billie-Jo, do you know Jesus?”, right away panic struck in my chest and I thought to myself, great, this lady must have an illness too. Within minutes I told her I had to go home and had to work in the morning. I avoided her for the next couple of months.
It wasn’t long after that I had become homesick and missed the big city and my boyfriend. By the end of Spring I had made the difficult decision to move back to Mississauga. I felt terrible leaving my mother behind but I missed the big city and my boyfriend and I felt that she was well enough again to live a productive life to the best of her ability, besides, I would call her everyday.
The weekend before my move I was coming home from work at the YMCA downtown on the bus and lo and behold who got on the bus?, my mom’s neighbour. I pretended like I didn’t see her but she sat down right beside me and said Billie-Jo, where have you been? Talk about uncomfortable. Anyways, not long after we started talking did she ask me why I was leaving Stoney Creek and my mom. I could feel my face getting hot as I didn’t like people meddling in my business back then, I was a very private person and well guarded. I explained the truth to her(it was hard to lie to her). All of a sudden she begins to tell me that I won’t last 2 months back in Mississauga and that my boyfriend and I will split up; that was in July.
By September 1995, I moved back in with my mom. I remember thinking, was my mom’s friend a psychic? what she predicted ended up happening, how did she know this?. My boyfriend and I did have a falling out and it wasn’t long before I realized I needed to be back with my mom, someone who really needed me.
What was Going On?
Shortly after I returned home, I went to visit my mother’s friend. She welcomed me with open arms, even after the way I treated her before I left, I never even said good bye to her.
Over the next several weeks I visited my mothers friend and she quickly became a dear friend to me. She would stay up all night listening to my life story and all my troubles. Then one night she asked me if I wanted to know who Jesus was. At this point in my life I had already tried relationships with men, Buddhism, Karate, alcohol, drugs and I had thought to myself, what do I have to lose? she seems pretty happy and she has a peace I find interesting.(she was dealing with a lot of problems)
I kept returning for more as she started to read the bible with me. I actually could not believe some of the things she told me about the bible and Jesus. One night I got really upset and challenged her about something she told me. She had explained to me that if Paul Bernardo had repented and truly turned his heart to God and asked for forgiveness that he would be forgiven and that God would judge his actions one day in judgment. I could not believe this, how could God ever forgive such an evil creature?
An AMAZING Love I Never Knew
I began slowly to understand the unconditional, merciful, compassionate and amazing love of God and how He gave us Jesus, His Son to die for us.(that’s another blog). I began to weep one night in anger of how Jesus was treated when He was completely innocent. I didn’t understand. I also at the same time felt like my whole view of the world was changing and that my heart was even beginning to soften. I had a very tough exterior and often hid behind alcohol and a false exterior BUT for the first time someone was breaking through all that facade. His name was JESUS!
On a cold night in February 1996, my friend asked me if I would make a decision that would change my life forever(I’m crying right now), she wanted to know if I would trust my life completely to God and His Son, Jesus Christ. I didn’t even hesitate by this time. In my eyes anyone who would die for someone else’ wrong doings and who would have the courage to confront people in power when no one else would and who stripped Him and beat Him to nothing….knowing He didn’t fight back, but still loved them?, I had to take that chance that He knew something I didn’t and that He had something to give me, something I never knew or had experienced, REAL love.
Life was never the Same
My life changed that night. All I did was say a prayer and invite Jesus and God the Father into my heart and I surrendered everything I had ever known to Him. In other words “Jesus took the Wheel”
I didn’t step foot in a church for 2 years after making that decision that night. I was on a personal journey with my Saviour and I soaked up every minute of it. Just me, Jesus and my bible, that was it and of course my very dear friend.
I lost her not long ago, it will be 4 years this Christmas. To this day I believe she was an angel while she was here. As much as I might help and inspire others, I will never attain the heart and mission she did. If it wasn’t for her being obedient and sacrificing all her time and energy into me I’m not quite sure where I would be today. I miss her deeply.
Who Am I Today?
Trust me when I say this, I was reckless and messed up. I am still broken today but held together by the marvellous love of an incredible, loving, merciful, kind and almighty God.
Life did not get easier when I made that decision that night in February 1996, as a believer it did not exempt me from more pain and suffering, in fact, I’ve experienced quite the opposite. The difference? the ability to stand strong in the face of adversity knowing that this life is temporary and that a greater promise awaits me(that’s another blog too :)).
I received a peace deep in my heart that night over 20 years ago and I have never lost it since then, I have had to fight to keep it many times and I have lost faith in seasons of my life and I’ve had to learn to trust in God with my whole being.
I am still learning to trust in Him, it can be very scary at times, however, my faith has only become stronger for all the trials and suffering I have experienced. Strong in Him.
Who am I today? I am a daughter of the BEST Father any woman could ask for. My God and His Son, Jesus Christ taught me how to love and how to show mercy and grace where it would not otherwise be possible.
The Vessel of Suffering
In my mother’s suffering and pain, God brought good out of it. It is very simple to understand, let me explain. He brought us back together because before her diagnosis I didn’t care if I ever saw my mother again. Yes, it’s true, we had a very wounded past. There were very deep wounds in my heart towards my mother. Her diagnosis brought understanding and forgiveness. It revealed TRUTH that brought healing to both of us.
My mother later lived with me and my family that God would bless me with years later. We have been inseparable from the day I moved back in with her in September 1995.
I love her with all my heart and I thank my God for where He lead me through it all-to His loving arms and grace. GOD is LOVE…..
This past Sunday was such a beautiful day. The sun was shining brightly, the air was crisp and I could smell from a distance the aroma of Apple Crisp, well, not really but it was a great day for it. So I ended up making just that, but I will upload that recipe later.
One thing about eating plant based meals is the amazing options for much of my favourite food before. For example, Creamy Mushroom Fettuccine is one of my personal favourites, I just omit the chicken now but feel free to add it to this recipe.
As a working mom with three teenage boys, I also need quick and nutritious meals to prepare so one other blessing about plant based which I didn’t even think of when making his transition was the time you save not cooking meats.
This recipe is a common one with many recipes in the web, this one however is plant based but feel free to personalize it your own way, that’s the best part about cooking, make it personal!
A couple of things first before I get to the recipe. Have you ever heard of “nutritional yeast”? I never did till I started cooking plant based. It is quiet the neat little additive to many ingredients for plant based or vegan/vegetarian meals.
I find this ingredient has a cheesy flavour to it and I love adding it to this recipe especially as you probably guessed or already know that plant based nutrition has no dairy. This is also a great supplement for B vitamins as it is loaded with them and B12 being a vitamin I don’t get from meat anymore, it’s perfect!
Click here to find out more about nutritional yeast and it’s any benefits and uses.
On with the recipe….
Creamy Mushroom Fettuccine
- 1 bag Rice Fettuccine, Rice Asian Noodles OR White Organic Fettucinne
- 2 pkg mixed mushrooms(I prefer cremini and white button)
- fresh thyme, rosemary, parsley
- 1 medium onion
- 2 tablespoons chopped JARRED garlic OR 4-5 fresh cloves garlic
- 1/2 cup vegetable broth (low sodium)
- 1 cup cashew milk
- 1 tablespoon vegan butter (earth balance)
- sea salt and ground pepper -add to your own taste
- 1 1/2 tablespoon fresh lemon juice
- 1/4 cup nutritional yeast
Add pasta to boiling water as directed. Cook while preparing sauce. Once cooked set aside.
How to make the sauce:
- In a large saucepan add vegan butter and melt over medium heat
- Add garlic & onion and mushrooms then sauté till onions and garlic are transparent-stirring frequently
- Add vegetable broth, sea salt, ground pepper, thyme and rosemary and continue to simmer for another 4-5 minutes
- Add cashew milk and bring to soft boil
- Then stir in nutritional yeast while sauce is boiling until it starts to thicken and then down heat on low.
- This part is where it’s hard for me to write out recipes because I will taste test several times to get the right flavour, you may want more salt , garlic, and pepper or you may want the sauce thicker. So experiment until it is perfect for your taste.
In the meantime, place pasta in a large bowl and add the sauce. Add a few sprigs of thyme and parsley on top and serve with a side, I prefer organic sourdough bread.
and there you have it! This is delicious on any type of day, any time of year.
Butternut Squash; Thai Coconut Curry Soup
Fall is on the horizon
Many things about this time of year appeal to me, but nothing more than homemade soups. I am always on a mission of creating a new recipe for a delicious, satisfying and visually appealing soup.
There are many soup recipes out there and anyone who knows me understands that I never ever follow a recipe(unless I’m baking :)). I don’t like being put in a box when it coms to cooking, this is where each individuals creativity can be unleashed!
Thailand and it’s amazing flavours
Ahan Thai is the national cuisine of Thailand, balance, detail, and variety are of paramount significance to Thai chefs.
Thai food is known for demonstrating “intricacy; attention to detail; texture; colour; taste; and the use of ingredients with medicinal benefits, as well as good flavour”, as well as care being given to the food’s appearance, smell and context. This is perhaps why I like to add Thai infusion to many of my recipes.
A few weeks ago I decided to make a butternut squash soup which I have made numerous times, however, I thought I would put a Thai twist on it and I’m so happy I did.Butternut squash is a wonderful vegetable. It is versatile and can used in many different ways. Soups, stir fry, steamed, baked, desserts are just a few to mention. Butternut squash instructions.
Thai Coconut Curry Soup Recipe
Not sure why on a hot day in summer I felt like making this soup but I had a couple cans of organic coconut milk in my cupboard and a 2 week old butternut squash and I thought, what the heck, lets make a warming flavourful soup tonight.
One of my favourite spices is curry, in fact if blood types are correct(I’m type O-), curry is supposed to be a great spice for you. Curry tumeric and many other spices of the east are very beneficial and used for many medicinal purposes.
I did not use any other recipe for this soup. This is all from scratch and I will try my best to give exact measurements(Sorry I don’t measure & I made this soup 3 weeks ago). The best thing to do when cooking is add a little bit of ingredient at a time and taste it as you go especially when adding spices.
OK, so here it is below, oh, and don’t forget! the best side to a delicious soup is of course fresh bread, my go to is sour dough. 🙂
Recipe Serves 4-5 (When chopping ingredients, do not be picky as you will be blending all these ingredients in a blender once boiled.)
- 1 Butternut squash 1-2 lbs (peeled, cubed)
- 2 tablespoons olive oil OR coconut oil
- 1/2 red bell pepper (chopped)
- 1/2 green pepper(chopped)
- 1 medium onion(chopped)
- 1 leek (chopped) be sure to clean really well inside leaves. How to clean and slice leeks
- 2-3 cloves garlic OR 2 tablespoons jar chopped garlic
- sea salt/ground pepper to flavour
- 1 teaspoon curry(of choice)
- 1/2 teaspoon corriander
- 1/4 teaspoon ground fresh ginger
- 1/2 teaspoon ground tumeric
- 1/2 can (400 ml) organic coconut milk
- 2-3 small fresh basil leaves(Thai sweet basil or asian basil is best)
- 2 cups low sodium veggie broth
- In a large saucepan sauté peppers, onions & garlic in olive oil on low until translucent.
- Add 2 cups of veggie broth and rest of ingredients EXCEPT the coconut milk.
- Once squash is firm & tender(not mushy) you can use your blender(vitamix), magic bullet, etc…and carefully add all ingredients(you made need to do two separate portions at a time. Blend until smooth.
- Place soup mixture into a soup pot and bring to boil for 2 minutes, stirring frequently. Once boiled, turn down to a simmer for 15 minutes.
- Add coconut milk at this stage and continue to simmer for another 15-30 minutes to absorb all flavours.
Serve with fresh basil leaves on top and with your favourite bread of choice & enjoy!
KALE….my SUPERfood of choice
Did you know Kale is;
- High in Iron.Per calorie, kale has more iron than beef. Hemoglobin and enzymes formation & transporting oxygen to various parts of the body, cell growth, proper liver function and more.
- High in Vitamin K. Bone health & blood clotting.
- High in antioxidants.
- Anti-inflammatory. 10% of RDA, Omega-3 fatty acids, which help, fight against arthritis, asthma and autoimmune disorders.
- Lowers cholesterol.
- High in calcium. Per calorie, kale has more calcium than milk.
- Detoxes. Kale is filled with fibre & sulphur which aid in detoxing.
How to eat Kale
My favourite way to eat kale is in a green smoothie I personally call the “Green Monster”. ever since I purchased my Vitamix I’ve been drinking them and I absolutely love it! My hair and nails benefit greatly from it.
Many people people prefer kale mixed into a salad, that’s is another great way as well. Many stores carry the Kale salad already pre-mixed. You can get it at most grocery stores.
You can also steam kale or add it to stocks and other culinary dishes. The options are endless. To get the amazing benefits kale has to offer, raw is always best.
Green Monster Recipe
Many people have asked for my Green Monster smoothie recipe so here is a quick video tutorial Green Monster & Enjoy!
This long weekend was one to remember. It was filled with really good food, much needed conversation, sand, sun and relaxation.
I cannot remember the last time my husband and I actually connected the way we did this past Civic holiday weekend. It was intentional and it was needed. That’s all I will say about that.
Marriage, it’s an investment and the only way we can make an investment with anything is to spend TIME making that investment. Some spouses spend time investing in their business and building an empire, I had that opportunity and it wasn’t for me. My investment is in my family first before anything else. I pulled up my big girl panties a long time ago and realized that both my husband and I made the decision to get married and to raise a family and so building an empire does not fit into our lifestyle, not yet anyways.
MONDAY morning breakfast choices
A year ago I had a fascination with making smoothie bowls. Everyday pretty much I would see what concoction I could come up with for breakfast and it always included a hardy, colourful & nutritious smoothie bowl. It’s a great delicious way to start your day.
With eyes half open this morning, I poured my usual 1 litre of water to get the digestive system warmed up and then I sat down to cuddle and say good morning to my hubby on the couch. Like always in the mornings, food came to my mind and I started thinking of what smoothie bowl I could make today.
Colours of the rainbow
One of my favourite colours is purple, especially when it comes to food. I’ve recently started making my smoothie bowls again and I started off with my Tropical Mango-Banana bowl.
So naturally, today my mind took me to all the shades of purple. When it comes to smoothie bowls or smoothies in general, purple of course makes us think of blueberries right away. However, there are so many other choices you can add to get different shades of purple. My recipe today has a couple of those options in it and it tastes delicious. If I’m going to make something pretty, it HAS to taste great too!
Time to try..
So if you haven’t jumped on the smoothie bowl train, I encourage you to do so. Make it fun, make it your own and enjoy the colours of the rainbow & great nutrition.
Purple Passion Smoothie Bowl
In a vitamix or other high speed blender mix the following ingredients in the following order:
- 2 frozen bananas
- 1 cup frozen blueberries
- 1/2 cup ice
- 1 cup frozen mango
- 2-3 small pieces of beet(think of mango size pieces)
- optional teaspoon acai powder
- 1/2 cup soy milk
Toppings optional: kiwi, pumpkin seeds, cacao nuggets.